I married my first date. My second first date was at 47, after my decades long marriage ended abruptly.

Dating in your 40s after divorce is not for the faint of heart. I figured a few things out along the way that might be helpful.

Three tips for dating after divorce in midlife

Maybe you have been there… you believe you have failed at life, you don’t like your body, your clothes and feel that you have little self-expression in your own style. You feel frozen in time with little sense of how to move forward. The dissolution of your marriage may have happened slowly with a gradual loss of your true self and your identity to please your spouse. Your self-esteem has never been lower. Reminds me of the song by Winona Judd, “Rockbottom is just a place to turn around.” Now that you are single, it’s time to get back your mojo. And build a life that excites you to get up to everyday. How do you do that? Read on, McDuff!