Divorce is particularly painful for most people around Thanksgiving and Christmas. Most of us have at least a few happy memories about past holidays and these are reminders of what we have lost. These positive memories can make you doubt your decision to divorce and ignite that little voice inside that says, “maybe I could have tried x,y,z and it all would have worked out.” If you are a people pleaser, this continuous examination of your part of the past equation may make you weary and feel a little crazy.

If you are divorcing a narcissist, expect the fight of your life. You have already discovered this personality is not averse to playing dirty. They are in it to win it. They don’t think like you do, are interested only in guarding themselves and their image with little consideration for what’s fair or kind. You need to protect yourself from a narcissist in divorce.